I slept with two brothers

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old woman and I have flirted a lot. I started to have sex when I was 16. One night I had sex with two brothers. Both of them used to like me. I went out with them. But instead of taking me home, they took me to another party. This party was wild. We danced and they played with me, and both brothers had sex with me. 

I did not report them because I allowed them to. 

Now that I am 20 years old, I have settled down with one guy and I like him. He said that he would send me back to school. I want to be a cosmetologist. I am living with my grandparents. They don’t have any money to help me, so this guy is supporting me. He treats me well and he gives me money every week. He doesn’t want me to go anywhere without his permission, so I don’t go anywhere without telling him. 

He has a sister who is my age, and we get along very well. Her boyfriend does not treat her as well, but she said she does not want to leave him. She wants to go back to school, but her boyfriend says that he is not going to educate any woman. 

I see these two brothers sometimes; they work close to where we live, but I just say ‘Hi’ and ‘Bye’. My boyfriend does not know that I had sex with them. In fact, this is the first time I am mentioning it, so please, don’t condemn me. I just want some encouragement. 

A.

Dear A.,

I am not here to condemn you or anyone. You made a mistake when you went out with these two brothers. They took advantage of you, but I am glad they did not get you pregnant or give you any STI. 

I hope that your present boyfriend will keep his word and that he will continue to support you. You say you want to be a cosmetologist, therefore you should contact HEART and they will give you all the information that you will need. Take good care of yourself, and write to me again. 

Pastor